Sunday, December 30, 2012

Thank You 2012 !!

2012 had been so good that i cant say anything but 

THANK YOU !!

It was a dream come true year for me in so many ways...

Having such a loving family and caring friends made 2012 extraordinary for me.

Honestly ....I cant thank enough !!

I am carrying all those joyful moments with me into 2013 and i have faith that it will be another beautiful and joyous year...

With so much love and joy in heart...i cant even think of what to write further .

So, I wish everyone lots of  love and joy in 2013 !!! see u all next year !!! 

Happy New Year !!!!


Thursday, December 27, 2012

A Warrior's Life

Paulo Coelho ! what a life !

I remember in Narnia, theres a part which says....

" Extraordinary things happen to extraordinary people. Maybe its a sign that you've got an extraordinary destiny.Something greater than you could have imagined"

And when i read about Paulo's life i see how true those lines are. Probably such extreme encounters and experiences in life made him come up with equally extraordinary novels. But whats even more interesting is that in the midst of his chaotic life there was just one thing firmly planted  in his mind , heart and soul....which is the passion to become a world famous writer. 

He didnt care if his parents didnt believe in him, or if he was tortured with electric shocks, or thrown into prison, or called weird or psycho . He was led by his dream to be writer and that gave all the power to endure any pain or obstacles. Its so true, how one becomes immune to anything else when the mind is fixed on a dream to follow. 

Seriously, if this person called Paulo Coelho didnt realize his dreams, then he would have been just another crazy guy in Brazil no one knew ! But today he is a worldwide phenomenon with 100 million copies of his books sold. So, what made this difference in his life was his passion to be a writer. 

Dreams fuels the soul and mind and burns anything that comes in its way . So, dare not only to dream....but also to realize it no matter what and that will make all the difference in our life :)

Its sad that some of us give up so easily merely being afraid of what others say and think about us. Never forget that each person has their right to follow their destiny and what others think has got nothing to do with it. 

We've got to always remind ourselves that, the moment we make it...the whole world will look up at you and forget anything of the pass. So NEVER give up on anything you love !!! just keep going...no matter how slow or crazy it might seem. 






Sunday, December 23, 2012

Lets begin..

So..we survived the 21st December 2012 ( are you surprised?? ). 

Isnt it strange that, we human beings could believe nature to be such a simple and fragile thing that it could be destroyed in a day ? I mean what makes us think that it is holding on for billions of years in a perfect alignment with the sun and other planets and stars...only to destroy itself in a DAY !

Last night as i was watching an interview on TV , this Indian director/actor, SJ Suria was asked " what do think about the Mayan prediction? He says , " There is no end to anything in this world...coz when something  ends it means something else begins ."  And i thought that was an interesting answer he gave....coz usually people would either explain why they believe it would end or why they dont. But he saw it differently.

If we all see it as a beginning to a new era, then thats what it will be. 

I am not sure if its just me or there are others who feel the same. I kind of feel that we human beings have passed the worst times . The world will gradually turn into a more peaceful place to live from now on. Wars will come to an end...people will learn to live in harmony. The truth of all religion will be realized to be nothing but plainly love for one another and for nature . 

I already notice this happening as more and more people are concerned about nature, to help the poor, to exercise and eat healthy food, to cook at home with traditional spices and ingredients, to plant their own vegetables. To live a simple life. More people are beginning to realise that every day and moment is precious and should be filled with as much fun as possible. More and more are talking about positive energy. Above all, more and more are beginning to understand the power of LOVE...

So...good luck all......its definitely a beginning.... :)







Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Coming into the Picture....

Year after year, we celebrate the major events like deepavali but then its never the same every time because everyone is a year older which means, someone has grown taller, or someone has gone to school, or has graduated or married, someone might have moved and came home after a long time, someone has just started working or had a baby. Someone has bought a new house or car and so on. Theres always something new to share, some new experience.

And, no matter how far we have gone, its always worth the effort and hassle to come back home. Just to put everything else aside and simply catch up with everyone. 

And this year i realised that no matter what weve been through the whole year , Deepavali is really rejuvenating. To hug your brothers and sisters, to laugh like crazy ! to have dinners and lunch in a big group. To play games, to book a whole row in the cinema and to pass the pop corn from one end to the other while watching the movie, to enjoy the fireworks with the kids, to cook and serve like never ending meals...yeah its all worth it ! And after all the fun....when we get back to the routine....and you look at the pictures taken during the celebrations....and feel so glad you made it into those pictures...coz next year it will be different again. A different moment....a different smile....but the same love shared !!

Heres my favourite picture for this year with my cousins and mom...



As we were all sitting randomly chatting away, my cousin tries to get our faces into a frame, and says " ka ! theres more space..you can fit in...so i bend down to get my face into the picture...and thats how we got this shot....a simple moment but a joyous one! So its not about grand celebrations or expensive gifts but simply about coming into the picture no matter what ! :0)

Stay within the frame , and enjoy ! :)




   



Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Sun dried Clothing, a luxury? :)



For those of you who had been living in apartments , will sure understand if i say , drying clothes on the clothesline  outside your house would be so exciting ! :) or those of you who go through winters, will also appreciate the crispy sun dried clothes. 

I realized how much i missed opening the gate, to walk out with the pail of washed clothes, and place it beneath the clothesline, to hang the clothes on the line and walk back inside with the emptied pail. hahahaha, sounds weird i know. But just doing that seemed like luxury once i moved to a landed house after 11 years living in an apartment. It was funny how we reacted when Nantha and i spotted the space at the back of our house where we could dry our clothes. " yay ! we can dry clothes at our backyard !!! "  :)  thats when i truly realized how how much i missed doing that!!! Then even more fun is, walking out to collect the dried clothes. All looking crisp and fresh !  




As in the apartment, though we had direct sun light at our small balcony, it only lasted till about 1pm, then the sun goes above the building. It was the strong wind that usually dried the clothes. And since i had my tiny garden at the balcony, i had to be creative to be able to hang my washed clothes on the grill so i have enough space for all my clothes. Also had to plan what i wash each time, as i cant put blankets and towels together as it would take too much of the space.



But the thing is , i never felt it to be difficult or inconvenient while we were at the apartment. I just made use of the space i had and didnt complain at all. I guess human beings are made that way. We just get used to what we have and dont think much of it until something changes. 

Though people have dryers nowadays, its still fun to do it for real. Dont you think? Hehe , maybe its just me. I love simple ways of life ! For it seems real ! And it brings back the sweet moments of childhood when we use to help our mom, to pick the clothes from the pail for her to clip it on the line or running out after her when it rains to pick the dried clothes before it gets drenched ! Those are the most joyful moments to me :):) 

So, for those of you who already live in landed houses, do enjoy drying your clothes and please remember, even drying clothes outside could be luxury to many :)

Have a sunny day all !! :)

Friday, September 7, 2012

The Kashmir Shawl

We were at The Gardens, Mid Valley, standing in the queue to have dinner at Sushi Zanmai with another two friends. But the queue didnt seem to be moving at all. Thats when we noticed, the bookstore, BORDERS was just next to the restaurant. So my friend and i decided to let our hubbies stand at the queue while we went to the bookshop for a quick shopping :) And as i browsed through the racks and displays of books, The Kashmir Shawl caught my attention, for a few reasons...one, i LOVE shawls ! two, Kashmir reminded me of the snow capped mountains in Switzerland which i recently visited, three, of course because it was about India ! and above all , coz i was curious how a simple shawl could be made the central character of a novel. I mean how much of a story could be linked to a SINGLE shawl ??  So i grabbed this book to read the outline at the back. Just as i guessed, it sounded pretty interesting. So without thinking further i took it right up to the counter and paid for it....and off i went back to the queue.

The story begins with the exquisite antique shawl found by Mair ( the grand daughter of the person who owned this shawl long time ago ) . Mair becomes curious about how her grandmother could afford such an expensive shawl and decides to trace its history which stretches way back into 1850's  in war torn India. She embarks on a quest all the way to Kashmir from England to unravel the mystery behind this shawl....and thats how the story begins. I wouldnt get into details as you can always browse or read the book itself. 

I only wish to share my thoughts about how sometimes a simple thing like a shawl could hold so much. It explains the Pashmina weavers and traders in Kashmir and their lifestyle then. The traditional weaving method takes months to complete a single piece of shawl in painstaking process which requires absolute concentration, energy, patience and of course love !! 

I wish to share excerpts from the novel which explains how important shawls were to these people:

"The finest items were made in the hope that the completed shawl would find a wealthy buyer, perhaps to be worn for a wedding or laid in as part of a bride's dowry. In Kashmiri families shawls of all grades represented the women's security. They could be cut up , sold in pieces to buy food or pay debts, retrieved and pieced together again."

"Shawls were given as gifts, hoarded as treasure, passed on from mother to daughter. The finest examples, the Kani pieces like Mair's grandmother's, these were hardly made nowadays and the techniques were all but lost. They were too costly and the weavers couldn't any longer afford to spend months bent over a loom in the hope of their shawl fetching a good price when it was finally completed. "

" Laid out in a tidy row across the breadth of it were hundreds of kani bobbins, each one wound with a different shade of hair-fine weft yarn. For each row of the pattern, an intricate design of flowers on a black ground, Mair understood that every one of the bobbins would have to be taken up in order and passed between the warp threads. Each time the exact number of threads had to be counted before one colour gave  way to the next. The pattern-maker's instructions were written out on a rough grid pinned up in front of the weaver, a tumble of scribbled digits that looked like mathematical calculations of an early astronomer.

Mair let out a breath she had been holding.

It must take fifteen minutes of concentration, she calculated to weave just one single row of the shawl. Less than half a metre takes three months to be completed."

Now, how would you feel if you owned such a shawl !! how precious it would be. But then, such things dont seem to attract people nowadays...all we want is ... FAST FAST FAST....who on earth today , has the time to sit on a single piece of shawl for THREE months...!! But then, seriously, where are we all rushing to ? it makes me laugh when i think of it sometimes, the earth is swirling in the same speed for billions of years...and yet what gives us the idea that we need to rush into everything in order to live well ! yoga tells you to breath slowly...the slower the better, but do we even remember we are breathing while we are rushing like mad?? as my friend Kym always mentions " running like headless chickens" !!haha isnt that we are doing ?

Anyway this story about shawls also reminded me of my mom's wedding saree which is about 47 years old now but still looks as good as new. Such beautifully woven silk with gorgeous shades of orange, gold and earthy colours. The gold  thread still glows beautifully. Now i am tempted to follow the history of my moms saree :) Though i know the village from where it came from, just curious to know how it was made and by whom. Wouldnt it be great if i found out !?? hahaha...me crazy as always, having crazy ideas :) But it could be possible, because those days, the Kashmiri shawl weavers had the habit of weaving a sign like alphabets or symbols on the shawls to identify the weavers. So , who knows,my moms saree might have a history too :)  

Nature has thought us that anything that grows slowly , grows the strongest. Like the mighty oak ,or chinese bamboo ! So, lets take time to weave our lives, a single thread at a time, a different colour at a time, and let it finish elegantly to last forever ! :) 



Lets be a Kashmir Shawl .......









Thursday, August 30, 2012

Malaysians we are :)

During my recent tour in Europe, i realized something interesting about us, Malaysians. We get all excited when we see anything that is connected to our country, i first noticed this in London, when we saw the restaurant called " Jom Makan " and we all go"hey ! look ! its the  ...Malaysian restaurant !! " then we go clicking away...taking pictures of the WORDS simply because its written in Bahasa Malaysia . Hello !...we are walking in one of the MOST exciting and popular city in the world...with The Tower Bridge and Big Ben boasting its history....and here we are ...getting excited about a Malaysian restaurant !




Then, it gets better....we are in Switzerland...in the cable car , going up one of the most scenic and divine Mount Titlis ...watching the glaciers flow elegantly lined by dark rocks and green pine trees, while we are indulged in its beauty , i hear my aunt saying " Look !! " and i thought she had spotted some amazing view or bird  or animal or something ...but then it was a sign inside the cable car, written in Bahasa Malaysia again. "Selamat Datang Ke Kereta Kabel Gantung Berputar yang Pertama Di Dunia " :) then of course...we are snapping pictures of it though we needed to hold on to the bars to be able balance and not fall on anyone..still we HAD to snap a picture of those words !! 





Now, it gets EVEN better....we are in the City of Love....Paris , and just got to the top of the Eiffel Tower, walking around admiring the gorgeous view from there AND again...we stop to snap pictures ....now what ? Of course, we spotted Kuala Lumpur Tower in the list of towers stated inside the Eiffel Tower. And we were proud that Malaysia was in it !









We had a day for gardening at Dunstable, England. So, we all went shopping for plants at a nursery by the country side. This place was just so lovely with such beautiful varieties of flowers and potted plants which made it pretty hard to choose from. The roses were just huge and colourful. While we admired all those flowers and plants , we then spotted a very familiar flower...the Hibiscus !! And of course we were excited to see our national flower bloomed beautifully, thousands of miles away from home ! Was also surprised that it could grow so well in a completely different climate like in England. So we also snap a picture of it .   



Then we go to LIVERPOOL !! yes, all those Liverpool fans got so jealous of me :) haha..as my brother took us on the Anfield Tour which was pretty exciting, really ! Then guess what, this time we found a restaurant owned by a chinese guy from Gunung Rapat , Perak ! And since all 4 of us are from Perak...we just HAD to have dinner there ! oh by the way, the food was really good !!




After the 3 weeks ...i was back home, and sorting out the photographs, and as i was uploading pictures taken in Brussels at the Atomium, i noticed there was some familiar letters again.... " SELAMAT DATANG " was written at the entrance among many other languages...and i got excited to spot it , but was disappointed that i didnt notice it while i was there itself, so i could have taken a close up of it. So i upload it in my FB and have my friends spot the words and we all get excited about it ! hahahaha.....ohh by the way, if you couldnt spot it...the words are written in the letter E, 3rd from top, isnt so clear here though...



Now need i say more !! Simple words of Bahasa Malaysia, local food or a plant even could get us excited while we are somewhere travelling.

Then i thought...

Malaysians will be always Malaysians....nothing could could take that feeling from our hearts :)


HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY TO ALL BEAUTIFUL MALAYSIANS ! 




Friday, July 27, 2012

Frozen Silence ..


I was sobbing away, shoved my face into the pillow as hard as i could coz i didnt want to freak out my aunt and cousin who was sleeping on the other side of the room, in Engelberg, Switzerland. We checked into that hotel about 3 hours ago. I couldnt describe the awesome view we had at our balcony, the glaciers melting down frozen, pine trees in the coolest shades of green , the alpine meadows and above all the sound of the swiss cowbells !! yes you keep hearing the bells even when you couldnt spot the cows. A scene like out of a fairy tale and yet it was for real. How serene, how HUGE, and yet how calm nature can be...all at one time.

I stood at the balcony spellbound , absorbing every inch of it so i would remember it forever...for i know no pictures will ever be able to reflect the true sense of beauty i was looking at. After a while it got misty and dark and i coudnt see the mountains anymore. I was eager to see it again in the morning. So decided to sleep well through the night so i could be up early.

So we all went to bed, i was in my separated side of the room tucked into the very cozy bed. Closed my eyes and there it was ! standing tall , frozen in absolute silence, the mountains ....the picture i had absorbed every inch that evening just popped up and it wont go away even if i tried. Looking at it...i tried to sleep...but i couldnt. So i started to talking to it ...strangely the first words that came out was...

 " It was You wasnt it ?? It was You who called me here...fabricated this whole tour across thousands of miles away...coz You know i would Love You to bits...! You wanted me to SEE You " ....and after a pause...i said again...
" It REALLY was YOU..wasnt it ? "

And the next thing i knew was...i was sobbing away..tears just flowing and i couldnt control myself. I felt like crying out loud but again i didnt want to get my aunt worried. So i just turned over and shoved my face into my pillow and continued crying for a few mins...then...i felt better and also puzzled ! hahaha...yeah i couldnt understand what it was about...but i was sure it wasnt because i was sad...or excited...i couldnt explain the feeling. Thats when i realised this, when i asked " It was You wasnt it ?" to the mountain, i heard IT say

" Yes, it  is Me, and now that you could SEE Me...do you think i could go wrong? "





That was the answer that triggered my senses. Something SO real , so HUGE, Such beauty has to be simply RIGHT. So, it is safe to put your trust in it. Thats what i learnt that night and ever since that experience i felt so much lighter , happier and calmer than i had been before.  So it was the frozen silence that spoke the loudest . So clear and to the point , you can never argue !

Though i wasnt satisfied with any of the pictures i snapped, for its too big to be contained..still just for remembrance, here are a few which i took from the balcony of our hotel :)














Wednesday, July 11, 2012

A Yogurt inspired moment :)

The pass two days had been pretty hectic at work...had too  many things in line, to be either solved , sent, received, keyed in , confirmed , printed , scanned , clarified, paid or charged...all in ONE day ! So, i was kind of getting a little dizzy with the whole scenario. But kept telling myself ... " ONE at a TIME" :) haha and somehow got almost 90 % of it done by the end of the day. So, as i was having my late lunch, wanted to have rice with plain yogurt ( the indian yogurt of course ) for some cooling effect. And no doubt i felt a lot relaxed after the awesome meal ! 


And as i got home, i thought....how about a yogurt facial as well :) hehe , yeah , since i always have loads of yogurt in my fridge i do have some splashed on my face once in a while.


So, applying some generous amount of yogurt on my face and neck, i lied down on the couch and closed  my eyes just to let it dry off and rested there for a bout 15 mins. And loved the cooling effect on my forehead  which really helped to relax the mind a bit. 


Then , at that moment , i thought about the book i was reading currently , The Aleph by Paulo Coelho.  And it suddenly dawned on me how clearly i understood the contents of the book which was triggered by that cooling off moment i had . "Aleph" according to this book meant the precise POINT where the whole universe is contained within you, and you become part of it and also the whole of it. It isnt easy to grab the idea unless you have put some thought about it for sometime. I woudnt discuss the book in this post because this is all about my yummylicious YOGURT ! :) and also because i am only halfway through the book. So, i shall save it for next time.


Coming back to my yogurt story......yeah, as i felt that calmness within me caused by the cold yogurt on my face, i thought this ...


" so what happened to all the tension i was going through the pass 2 days ? how come it just vanished in an instant? "THIS MOMENT" i am totally cooled off, and felt like the whole universe was in somekind of perfection in which i was part of. Nothing from the past nor the future would effect "THIS MOMENT" i have in hand. So what does it matter if someone shouted at you last week or if someone misunderstood you last month...or if someone betrayed you last year...or someone isnt keeping their promise they made to you ...or if you are not doing enough window shopping ...or if you couldnt plan a holiday for the next whole year....or if you have been waiting tirelessly for something to happen....or if the worst TV shows are aired just the day you are stuck at home having nothing else to do...or the book you bought doesnt make any sense...ok ok ...i think you get the idea...what i mean is...NONE of such things effects the moment you surrender to "THIS MOMENT" When you are totally with yourself, nothing else seems to matter at all. At other times we burden our heart and mind with such thoughts which we inflict upon ourselves..no one is responsible if we feel miserable at any time because we always have the choice of switching the mode to " PEACE AND CALM" sometimes it comes easy ( Like my yogurt moment ) but at other times we've got to put some effort to remind ourselves that nothing but OUR selves matters. And this does not mean we are selfish. Everyone deserve to be at peace, its our right ! So, making ourselves miserable does not help anyone at all but staying happy and peaceful does !! "


Now seriously...thats quite a lot of thought to be inspired by plain YOGURT, dont you think? hahaha yeah...but thats life, always revealing itself in the simplest of moments! It just waits to pounce on you when you are least alert. So watch out for such simple moments ! 


And ohh...do have some YOGURT today :)




Tuesday, July 3, 2012

From Taiping to Titlis :)

If you noticed my profile picture for this blog, it is me jumping by the lake garden in Taiping Perak , Malaysia. That was my first experience doing those jumping poses. I never thought i could do it. But during that trip 2 years back with my beautiful friends from KL, one of them, Kym gave us the idea of how to do it. So she started jumping and i was snapping her pictures and was amazed at how lovely the pictures turned out. So we all got excited and started jumping together . Thats how i got that first jumping pose! Then, i kind off encouraged other friends to do it whenever we got the opportunity and a good backdrop. 


And this time , during my trip to Europe, i couldnt help doing the jumping poses again everywhere i go, you cant blame me, with the kind of backdrops you get over there you might even attempt a "floating in the air" pose !  


First it was at Dunstable, a beautiful town about an hour from London, and there are rolling hills and meadows here SO gorgeous you cant help jumping around...! And here i made our friend from Dunstable try it as well , and she enjoyed it so much and came up with interesting ideas like jumping off the cliff as in the pic above :) 


Then...we were in Switzerland, at Mt Titlis......gosh ! need i say more ! So here i go again .... at first we were wandering if it was a good idea to do it there as it was pretty slippery even to just walk on. We kept tripping over the snow for every 2 to 3 steps...but then decided we simply got to try it ...and when i see the pictures now ...I am SO glad we did ! Worth the risk and effort ! Well, thats the highest point ive jumped off so far and ohh....it definitely helped to keep ourselves warm :)


Looks like now ive got a new hobby...to jump around the world :) Thanks to my friend Kym who started this in Taiping! hehehe yeah, hope to see more breathtaking places so i could keep jumping ! 

So, next time you see a place worth jumping off ....dont think twice ! yeah of course you will get some spectators laughing at you ! but who cares ...its your life ! Your Jump ! Just do it and You will love it ! And  if you try it, you will know that it is impossible not to smile while you do these jumping poses...so every picture turns out with your best smile coz you just cant help it ! Its is a joyful experience. So....up for a jump ! ? :) 





Friday, June 29, 2012

Europe 2012 :)

Europe.....now it all seems like a book i read...the rolling hills, meadows, fields, crystal clear streams, the divine snow capped mountains, the enchanting woods , the roaring waterfalls...roses and lavenders, ...blueberries and blackberries, the dairy farms, the humble sheeps, horses, colourful ducks, and swans....castles and ancient cathedrals....could it be true i walked through all these and more in just 3 weeks..? or was it just another book i read ???


Honestly thats how it seems now...real and unreal at the same time...but the only thing that keeps reminding me that it was all real is the photographs.. :) yes...THANKS to my brother, Navin who lives in England, who made this exceptionally beautiful holiday possible. Also thanks to the most amazing family friends we have in Dunstable who let us stay with them, which gave me a chance to experience the english lifestyle and not just being a clueless tourist wandering around. Thanks to my aunt who invited me to go with her :)


Honestly i dont know where to start...places so breathtakingly beautiful leaves your soul stretched out and light . Theres just SO MUCH to share , but i will sure do it the soonest possible, one at a time :)  

Friday, May 25, 2012

Yesterday evening, after finishing my prayers at home, i sat at the computer table, checking some mails about 5.55 pm when i heard a very loud chirping of bird , i continued browsing as i thought it must have been some bird flying pass my apartment. But then , i heard it again and realised it was really loud. So i got up and walked towards the living room ...and found a small bird perched on the iron grill of my balcony facing the house. I stopped walking just in case i would scare the bird off. Waited a few more seconds to see it fly off...but no...it just stayed there. 

I was eager to snap a picture of it. Very slowly i walked to my room , got the camera and walked back to the entrance of the living room. I managed to snap a few pictures of the bird and expected it to fly off anytime now..but no ! it stayed perched on the grill. I decided to sit on the floor and wait to see what it was up to. Snapped a few more pictures when the bird started looking left and right and even straight to me ! Got as many pictures i could , zoomed in and out and changed a few angle....and yet it was still there ! I looked at the time on my Astro decoder and realised it had been almost 15 mins since the bird flew in to my balcony !! I thought it was really strange for bird to stay so long on a iron grill while it can see a human walking and standing so close to it ....dont you think !??








Seemed like it was waiting for something but i had absolutely no idea what it might be! then i decided to click the video button on my camera just in case i am able to capture something interesting ! Finally after 20 mins, it chirped again and hopped on the grill moving towards my bamboos on the right side of the wall...i followed with my camera...still recording and snapping pictures....thats when i saw another bird of the same kind flying into the balcony and also perched on the grill !! Then , the earlier bird hopped nearer to its pair and chirped away, after a few seconds chirping ...it both flew off together !!





I was really excited to witness this rare scene of reunion at the comfort of my home in the midst of a concrete jungle...15 floors high on a tiny balcony with a few pots of plant .... i thought it was really amazing ! But i am still not sure what type of bird it was...definitely not the common Myna, or sparrow, pigeon or Robin...i dont know what species this is. Got to find out :)


Sunday, May 13, 2012

Whos the mother ? :)

Its mothers day....and after calling my mom first thing in the morning...i realised something interesting. Its about the relationship between my mom and me. How over the years we have switched roles. Without realising it, i have been acting like a mom to my mom while she has been acting like a child who seeks love and attention from me. I guess its just natural especially between moms and daughters, you cant help it.

Once we daughters grow up, we become more of a friend to our moms then a child. So we enjoy shopping, or watching a movie , going on vacations or even simple outings like to the grocery stores. But the difference is , now it is our turn to hold their hands when we are crossing the roads, to teach them how to use some machines, how to get the e-tickets, where to get the perfect shoe or which beauty parlour to go. We start taking responsibility to do things for our moms whether its is as important as health screenings or simply a walk in the park. We want to see them happy make them believe in themselves to look just as young as they were 20 years ago. We convince them to try wearing a pair of jeans, and even sun glasses and tell them how cool they look. We protect them by not telling some of our stressful days at work or personal life for we know it isnt fair to burden them with such details. 

We want the best for them always and we try not hurt their feelings and be as understanding as possible of their very different views about life to ours.

Still i think its fun being a mom to your mom !! :):) yes we occasionally get into heated arguments too and put up long faces for a whole day, and yet still will not miss calling each other EVERY single day ! hahaha yeah ...

So this mothers day i especially dedicate my wishes to all those daughters who have turned into mothers to their mothers :) its and awesome relationship ! have fun ! for its love both ways :):) 


Monday, May 7, 2012

A quiet bloom

I have 3 bamboo plants at home...one really tall and touching the ceiling which is 9 years old . It grows in a big pot which I have placed in the living room by the sliding glass door. Theres another plant which is about 4 years old growing in a medium sized pot out at my balcony which has grown about half the height of the one inside. I have the 3rd one which is about 5 years old but it has been in a very small pot which you can just hold in your palm. I kept this small one as a quick and easy deco inside the house whenever there are visitors or gatherings. At other times i leave it at the balcony so it gets enough rain and sunlight.


 Last year as i shared some of my photos of the plants in my FB page including the tallest bamboo...one of my good friends , Trina mentioned how when the bamboo blooms it is believed to bring good fortune to the owner. I didnt know about this before and found the fact interesting coz my tall bamboo did bloom once about 4 years back and thats it, after that i never saw another flower from that plant. So i told my friend..."Ohhh i didnt know about that and i shall watch out for the next bloom for sure !!" this conversation took place sometime end of last year...and eversince that day ..everytime i water the big bamboo inside the house...i cant help looking through the thick bamboo shoots and leaves to spot a flower...but it hasnt bloomed yet.


This morning...as always i walked to the balcony right after i woke up...as i love to feel the morning sun. After standing there for a few mins i turned back...and saw a beautiful bamboo flower !! BUT not from the tall plant inside but in the smallest pot at the balcony....i was so delighted to see the lovely bloom that i just stood there looking at it . And while i looked at it i couldnt help feeling guilty...how unfair it was for me to assume that the small bamboo plant wouldnt bloom!!...i NEVER looked out for a flower in that plant EVER coz i didnt even think it would bloom simply because it was growing from such a tiny pot ! I admired the flower and in fact said sorry to the lovely little plant for not believing in it ! really...made me think how life can be deceiving most of the times. Just like the tall bamboo ...our minds are most of the times distracted by some things which we believe will make us happier but as always happiness bloooms from the most unexpected places. 


So...nature once again has thought me how to stay alert in this ever deceiving world and never be blinded by the big things alone. Also never to underestimate the power of anything ..no matter how small it may seem for every bit of this world is made of the same powerful force and is equally amazing ! So...remember to pay attention to the small things for the biggest joy is always there ! :):) heres the bloom...in my LOVELY tiny bamboo plant ! :) Have a beautiful day :)








Tuesday, April 17, 2012

The Glass Palace


Most people find history to be a boring subject. Because what we learn in school or college is focused on WARS ....WARS....and nothing but WARS..memorizing years, dates, names, political parties and so on. While we focus on these so called facts of wars, we always forget about the lives of ordinary people who were not directly involved in the wars but had their lives changed totally !

The glass palace is an awesome book which takes the readers to the streets to live with the ordinary people who had to flee their countries and with some who decided to stay back and face the harsh situations , also with The Royal Family in exile during the wars.

Historians do not think its important to tell the stories of people who were interrupted rudely by a bunch of officials who decided they should invade a country just at a time..when a women is pregnant awaiting a safe delivery, a man had worked so hard on his farm so he could earn a little extra to be able to send his children to a better school , a child who is just learning how to take its first steps and so on.

This book takes you across Burma, Malaya and India beginning in the year 1885 with two orphaned children, an eleven years old Indian boy who was stranded in Mandalay after his boat where he worked as a errand-boy needed repairs and the other is a Burmese girl who was then a maid to the Burmese Queen Supayalat. When the British invaded Burma and won the war in just 14 days , The Royal Family ( King Thebaw )were forced to be sent into exile to India together with some of their maidservants.

From here the story stretches to the next 3 generations and how their lives were determined by the waves of wars and brutal occupations. It will make you understand that merely being ambitious or having a passion will not be enough to live through such periods of time. Imagine the courage needed to wake up everyday wandering if your son or daughter got killed yet ! Not having any means of communication with your family members for years and years and growing old ..still wandering if your son is alive somewhere in another country. How excruciatingly painful every moment of wait will be ? While we could hardly wait to have our children come back from school safe, there were parents then who had brutally strong hearts to be able to stay oblivious to the danger faced by the children simply because they had absolutely no choice !

Life was merely about , who made it longer. Lovers torn between countries, parents dying alone, children hiding from enemies, even soldiers starving to death ! But in the midst of all the chaos across these 3 countries and over 3 generations, there were some who still managed to not only live it through but also follow their dreams. In this story theres a person who always loved photography and he lived up to the age of 80 in Sungai Pattani and succeeded in his career as a professional photographer. You have read it to see how difficult it must have been for all those people who lived through those years..

The book paints a complete picture of how life was during the British conquests and their interest in the teak trade and rubber plantations , also the fate of indian
peasants in their hands. Having been ruled by the British for 200 years, the Indians were torn between patriotism and loyalty. Indian soldiers who were sent to fight in Malaya were utterly confused about who they were fighting for, as it wasnt for their country nor their people but for the British. So many decided to leave the British army and join the Indian National Army.

Arjun who is in the British Army fighting against Japanese in Malaya...says :

" Just look at us Hardy, what are we? We've learnt to dance the tango, and we know how to eat roast beef with a knife and fork. The truth is except for the colour of our skin, most people in India wouldnt even recognize us as Indians. When we joined up we didnt have India in our minds: We wanted to be sahibs and thats what we have become "

Theres is SO much more in this book....in fact too much to be discussed over just one post...and what i loved most about it is that by studying individual lives we are able to learn more history than by reading any History book.

So , if you are one of those who hates history....do read this book and you will sure change your mind :)

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Pray Love Dance

No this is not another version of Eat Pray Love...this is set in a totally different realm altogether...its a dimension where even nature herself is defied. Here, you will see the river Ganga flow in reflections of the colours of rainbow, ancient temple sculptures coming to life and dancing by Her banks to the majestic sunrise in the evening..(YES i meant EVENING)...only here you will EVER get to see the sunrise and the sunset simultaneously.

Surya Staka is a homage to Surya, the Sun God as Remover of Darkness and Source of Light & Knowledge. The dancers here transform into bright rays of sunlight, slowly emerging from the darkness and filling the space up with vibrant colours. It feels so real that you would feel the heat warming your heart and emotions up. It gives the same magical feelings of watching the sunrise in the morning..how the light engulfs the darkness of dawn so gently that you dont feel anything changing by the seconds and yet within an hour you will be drenched in the light so bright.

Once again in Pray Love Dance presented by Sutra Dance Theatre last week, I had the same magical experience ...theres also another piece called Aditya Archana ( my favourite!! )...which is also homage to the sun and the same effects of the sunrise!

You might think i am exaggerating ...but only until you have watched Sutra Dance Theatre performing it. Then, you will believe that sunrise doesnt have to be only a morning occurrence...these dancers can bring the sun to rise at anytime, anywhere...all you need to do..is get a ticket :):)

For those who have never experienced sutra dance theatre, heres a glimpse of how it is...below is a link to a promo of show held in 2010 in Istana Budaya...have a look :)

and have a magical day :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onPuNd-65Hs&feature=related

Thursday, February 23, 2012

A Thousand Splendid Suns


Only some writers are able to suck you into the Black Holes of life...into another dimension...where you have never been in your entire life and give you the experiences of being with someone whom you have never met...to listen to them...to see them...feel them...and almost touch them !! Khaled Hosseini is definitely ONE of such writers !!!

His words brings every moment so alive that when i finished this book....i felt like i had been in Afghanistan myself....living and growing up with Mariam and Laila. I still have the memory of travelling through the dirt roads...to the flat field where poplars and cottonwoods grew high.... along lovely streams...i almost feel like i walked that path..holding hands with 5 years old Mariam in some strange realms..honestly it doesnt seem like a BOOK that ive been into reading !

And it hurts to have followed the lives of this two Iron ladies in the true sense only to in the end , succumb to the cruel reality ..its hard to see a friend you know for about 35 years walking into the stadium to be stoned to death especially when you know what she had been through all her life !!

As you read those final lines...you feel like running into the stadium to stop it or at least wish the author doesnt end it that way ... but then it happens still ...no matter how hard it maybe to put any sense into it ...it just happens...while the rest of the world...is planning on weekend outings ... booking tickets to catch a movie....baking ..or getting frustrated that it started raining when you were just about to go jogging....or while someone is screaming at the waiter for spilling some drink on them accidentally....also while family members are gossiping about each other...crying over the slightest remark made by friends....complaining that the internet connection isnt good....phone signals are not stable ....feeling terribly upset for not being able to get the very expensive toy our kids wanted for their birthday...for thinking God hasnt answered your prayers as HE didnt get you enough money to buy the bungalow you always wanted..yes exactly at that instant in onother part of the SAME world ...a beautiful and innocent women walks helplessly into the stadium and....


" Yet as she closed her eyes , it was not regret any longer but a sensation of abundant peace that washed over her. She thought of her entry into this world, the Harami child of a lowly villager , an unintended thing. a pitiable, regrettable accident. A weed. And yet she was leaving the world as a women who had loved and been loved back. She was leaving as a friend, as a companion, a guardian. A mother. A person of consequence at last. No . It was not so bad, Mariam thought, that she should die this way. Not so bad. This was a legitimate end to a illegitimate beginnings.

Mariams final thoughts were a few words from the Koran

" HE HAS CREATED THE HEAVENS AND THE EARTH WITH THE TRUTH; HE MAKES THE NIGHT COVER THE DAY AND MAKES THE DAY OVERTAKE THE NIGHT, AND HE HAS MADE THE SUN AND THE MOON SUBSERVIENT; EACH ONE RUNS TO AN ASSIGNED TERM; NOW SURELY HE IS THE MIGHTY; THE GREAT FORGIVER'

"Kneel," the Talib said.


But unlike most Afghan stories...this one had an happy ending too...Laila, who managed to live through Kabul bombings which took her parents away...leaving her an orphaned teenager in the very same streets she used to hang out giggling and chatting with friends...separating her from her childhood (boy) friend...to be married to a 60 years old man as a second wife...enduring the beatings and emotional tortures ...and going through a cesarean without anesthetic , oxygen, or even antibiotics..but still she managed to find her love again...fleeing to live away from her homeland...but in the end cant help going back to Kabul with her husband and children to help the rest of the victims, after Taliban were driven out.

Its shocking though to know how far the human souls can be stretched and strengthened to no limit !

And yes of course Mariam and Laila here are labelled as "fictional characters" but then...the world knows ..doesnt it ?

So once again...i felt like Thanking God a Zillion times for this paradise i am living in....and everything else life has offered abundantly .... occasional flashmob events arent enough to rejoice ... we should be dancing on the streets every day ...hahaha..yup...lets enjoy this beautiful life and not waste precious moments sulking over insignificant things ! :)

Have a joyful day :)

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

In Terms of LOVE



So...It is Valentines day....

PHASE ONE :

When i was a teenager...i remember V day to be a " Secret " word...you dont dare say it in front of your parents or big brothers ...because it ONLY means you are up to something...with your secret lover !!!... so as we walk around in the shopping complexes or gift shops...we take a glance at the V gifts and act like we are not interested..coz our parents are watching ....And if you do have a boyfriend or girlfriend...buying a V card or Gift would require James Bond moves...so that your parents will not find you out..you plan out like a month before the day...so you have ample time to figure out how and when to get the gifts or cards....and where to hide it...and when to post it ( if you manage to sneak out to the post office in the first place...!!)you will be so paranoid about your parents being able to read whats on your mind..that you wont even dare think when they are around !! hahaha...

In fact you hardly see even married couples celebrating it ...for it was suppose to be ONLY for "LOVERS" !!

Then one year when i was still in secondary school ...some of my friends discussed about how Valentines day should actually be for everyone...like for your parents, siblings...friends or who ever you loved and wish to express it...so that particular year i thought i would get my mom a gift on V day...but my father was such a strict person that i had no chance of getting out myself to the gift shop anytime i wished...so i had planned an "Operation V day " to buy something way before V day. I somehow managed to buy a small black vase and hid it in one of my drawers in the room...and as i had some collections of fancy glittery stickers out of which one read " I LOVE YOU "...i thought it will be sweet if i stuck it on the vase for my mom. So i did it...and covered it with some of my clothes and put it my drawer....and finally when V day came...i proudly took it out and gave it to my mom and wished her...she looked at it ..and then smiled with a relieved expression...could you guess why ?? ....Coz my mom had found the gift earlier...and assumed that i had a boyfriend and it was for him or that someone had bought it for me!!! I was like....HUH ???? what boyfriend ???i bought it for you !!!hahha...that Vase is still at home in the shelves...i shall snap a pic of it and put it up here soon !

PHASE 2 :

So...thats how V day was those days....after sometime..since a few years back..the celebrations have been expanded from just LOVERS ....to parents , siblings, friends or even pets ! and i think thats just great !!! For LOVE is a positive force and having the whole world celebrate LOVE is pretty inspiring...so everyone wishes Happy V day to anyone they meet ...even at work place...customers greet happy V day when call the office...Everyone gets gifts , cards, roses and candle light dinners...

Phase 3 :

NOW....i notice that some are going against these celebrations ...saying it doesnt make sense to express your love only for ONE day....when it should be all days ...
Which i do believe is true...but whether one day or all days...LOVE is good feeling...better ONE day then NEVER ....so no harm celebrating it... but heres what i wish a V day is like ...

Phase 4 ( my idea :)

Lets still celebrate this beautiful day that somehow...makes everyone think of ONLY LOVE ...but lets also change the ways we choose to celebrate it...say as lovers..instead of buying gifts for each other...how about getting together to buy something for someone who is in need...or how about a BUNCH of friends getting together to buy an EXPENSIVE pair of bird which other people would not think of freeing because its costly..and SET IT FREE while having BBQ party :) Or how about organizing a family gathering in an orphanage...or old folks home...or ..for those who like adventures,how bout planning a waterfall cleaning for the LOVE of nature..

Problem is most people still think of LOVE in terms of MONEY....but then our hearts recognizes LOVE only in terms of LOVE .. , some simple ways can bring so much joy that would last longer than anything money could buy...and i always feel that couples could feel MOre LOVE by doing things TOGETHER ...however simple and humble it might be...it brings you closer...so stop thinking of the most expensive ways to please someone...and switch to the LOVE mode today

Wishing you all a LOVELY day !

Friday, February 10, 2012

simple pleasures:)

In a world that is constantly looking and chasing after the BIG things....we all tend to forget...those simple things that tickles our heart into BIG smiles...i am sure each person has their own simple pleasure moments...here are mine :

# The crackling of indian spice in hot oil when mom is cooking ( somehow it feels different when i do it myself...theres an extra ounce of pleasure when mom is cooking :)

# the crispy sound of cold snack packets being torn open in the cinema while its still quiet just before the advert or movie starts...and the whispering of people around us...as though we are all up to something secretive and dangerous... :)

# Getting things in and out of a paper bag after shopping or when packing things for outings...gosh dont you love the paper bags !! Now 7 eleven packs their snacks in paper bags...and somehow...i find the food to be more interesting then before..simply because i am holding it in a PAPER BAG ! :)



# Reading tattered old books that has pages coming off..and important parts underlined or notes written in its pages...one of such books i read lately was The Kite Runner...it was my aunts book...read by so many people which left almost half the book's pages coming off..i had to hold it so carefully to make sure none of its precious writings go missing...also read the book "KIM" by Rudyard Kipling...this book belongs to my friend Kym ...ok i am not making this up...her name is Kym...and the books title is also KIM ...really ! anyway...this precious book of hers is about 30 years old !!and she had written notes on some pages..explaining some parts of the story ...and underlined some parts. Reading a book that has so many years in it...makes you feel the book is extra special...and the words more important simply because a good friend thought it was important:)

Below is a page from my brothers Book " REAL MAGIC" by Dr Wayne Dyer and the page 116 where he had highlighted a paragraph and also underlined it in pencil without using a ruler about 20 years ago..! when i read it ....i definitely stopped at this phrase to think about the content...as it seemed more important to me...made me wander...how it could have effected him and his life..when he was then just a about 25 years old..i could imagine him lying on the mattress holding a pencil ..reading the book and thinking it was an important message at that moment !...so thats why i feel old books are so interesting...or some books would bring back your own memories of the past...if you had read it long time ago...you will remember where exactly you were while reading certain pages and parts of the book and how you felt then...so it somehow becomes a kind of a diary :)




# Washing dishes ! haha yes you read it right...while most girls and (nowadays ive got to include) guys hate doing that...i on the contrary just LOVE it...and stranger still that i enjoy watching someone else doing it too ! i dont think i am able to explain why !! so i will just get on with the next thing in my list....hahaha..




# looking at the rows and rows of colourful glass and metal indian bangles arranged like rainbows in the Indian shops...though i dont fancy wearing them in bulk...i just love how colourful it looks all together :)

# When someone says... " shall i make u a drink..? " ( ok u are beginning to think i am weird and i dont blame you :):):)

# The sound of ice cubes in a glass of juice ...

and of course i also love the more common things like sound of rain drops ...crushing sound of dry leaves .... and so on...but then...these are normal things..so i didnt include it as MY special simple pleasure :)

There are more strange things that lights me up in an instant...maybe i will write a part two...:)

So for now...think of those things that gives you such simple pleasures...if you havent noticed...pay attention from now...and you will realise there are some silly and insignificant things that touches your heart ! :)


Wishing you lots of simple pleasures and happy moments today and always !

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Confessions of a Shopaholic :)


First of all...i am SO glad i did not watch the movie...!! reading makes it a lot more fun and i will tell you why here.... :)

When Isla Fisher appears as Rebecca Bloomwood on the screen with such sweet face..people tend to look at her and her facial expressions and everything else on the screen ...whereas when you read something like in the paragraph below..

" I'm wearing my smartest black suit, and tights and high heels , with an FT(magazine) under my arm, obviously. And i am carrying the briefcase with the combination lock, which my mum gave me one Christmas and which ive never used. This is partly because its really heavy and bumpy - and partly because ive forgotten the combination ."

then...you will see the real Rebecca Bloomwood and connect with her instantly.

Heres more ...

"So as i get ready to go, i feel quite bouncy and positive. I put on my new gray cardigan over a short black shirt, and my new Hobbs Boots - dark gray suede - and i have to say , i look bloody good in them. God i love new clothes. If everyone could just wear new clothes every day, i reckon depression wouldnt exist anymore."

" I give my lashes another layer of mascara, spray myself in Coco Chanel. I am wearing all black - but expensive black. The kind of deep, soft black you fall into. A simple sleeveless dress from Whistles , the highest of Jimmy Choos, a pair of stunning uncut amethyst earrings. And please dont ask how much it costs, because its irrelevant.This is investment shopping. The biggest investment of my life."


So...how could the screen explain such details...i guess it doesnt..its so fun to read the details yourself...and imagine the person wearing it...while on screen you might have missed most of what Isla was wearing...coz we are busy looking at her and listening to the dialogs.

And of course the book is simply hilarious and reading gives you time to laugh...share and continue reading without missing any moment of the story...something which we dont get to do while watching a movie...ohh come on...how many of us would bother watching the whole CD again or go the cinema the 2nd time just to catch a funny moment ?? But a book gives you the privilege of going over and over your favourite part and enjoy it again and again !

These are some of the reasons why most ( or maybe all) books are better than the movies... anything that gives you time and space to enjoy lasts longer in your memory and leaves a bigger impact in your life. But a movie just goes ...Whooosh ..leaving you no time to think or ponder over it...

Just like books...life itself has to be taken slowly at its own space...stop WHoooshing around :):) ..yeah ...go slow...enjoy every moment...indulge in anything you love...feel it and you will love life as much as i love books ! :):)

And going slow does not mean waking up late to work...or not finishing your assignments in time ....its about how we feel within...be calm ...Just take a min to Look at the flowers bloomed along the highway...feel the morning breeze as you are walking from your car to the office building...pay attention to how delicious your breakfast or lunch is...remember to say hi to your cleaner and ask how shes doing...admire the full moon ....listen to rain drops wherever you are , play in the rain if you can...be childish sometimes...like getting excited about having an ice cream while its raining...play a simple snake and ladder board game with your kids and remember to laugh when you get gobbled up by the snakes and celebrate when you get a ladder ....cheer someone else up .....run and chase around with your children..and get yourself dirtier than your kids by the end of it ! believe me they will be amused ! take your parents somewhere they have never been....climb a tree ! ( I still do..just in case you are wandering ! :) you dont believe me ? that gives me an inspiration for my next post ! :) Will share my experiences with my best tree friends :):)

so anyway...yeah i can go on and on....when you set your mind to such calm mode...you will find life going slow and steady...despite the fast moving life style ..try it !!! you will see what i mean !

Have a crazily beautiful day ! :)